One at a Time
Losses resulting from a death or life transition can be difficult to navigate. Sometimes you need someone to just be there and listen so that you don’t have to grieve alone. Grief Facilitation provides the opportunity for a facilitator to accompany the grieving, hurting person in their grief journey.
The first step to healing is to acknowledge that you need help in navigating unchartered waters of grief and then secondly, seek the appropriate help. In choosing a facilitator or therapist, it is important to feel a sense of rapport or connection and enough initial trust to allow for a consistent relationship in building further trust to facilitate healing and overall wellness through this important transition. It’s been said that in grief facilitation, it is easier to create an atmosphere of willingness to share because participants are not being diagnosed or treated.
Tonya offers straight talk coupled with the compassion that comes not only from her educational background but also from firsthand experience with the many phases of grief, healing, and the wonderful metamorphosis that occurs after the struggle. Her approach to grief and loss also challenges the participant with the decision to deny it or deal with it when it sits squarely in our laps.
Her philosophy includes a consistent walking beside those affected rather than “treating” them as “patients” – after all, grief is not a disease!
You’ll be surprised to learn the word “treat” also means “to handle,” and the word “patient” indicates someone who is a passive, long-time sufferer. Thus, this approach to grief only serves to literally handle a hurting person while they take no active part in changing their circumstances — there’s no healing in that approach!
Grief facilitation isn’t about assessing, analyzing, or“fixing” a person’s grief
It’s about walking alongside them as they navigate the overwhelming waters of grief and loss; helping them accept and even come to appreciate their “ground zero.” This is the philosophy Tonya ascribes to in her “release the pain” sessions. Tonya likens her work in grief facilitation to helping a struggling chrysalis release itself from its cocoon of pain and into the transformation process that facilitates its cycle into a fully-formed butterfly!
Tonya helps her participants understand that grief is a natural normal response to any kind of loss such as divorce or separation, incarceration, unemployment, relocation, disasters, and death (human and pet). She helps them to know that sooner or later, grief touches everyone; secondly, know that it is a process, not an event; and lastly, that there is no shame involved in this very natural process.
“Every day above ground is a good day!”
Please Note: Grief work facilitation is defined as assistance with the resolution of a significant loss. It’s the enhancement or reinforcement of any action or function so that it can be performed more easily; whereas, grief counseling is defined as form of psychotherapy. Grief Facilitation is not the same as therapy or counseling. My services are provided within the proficiencies of a licensed mortician, grief facilitator, and Bachelor Level Social Worker. I am not a licensed counselor. Clients are free to reject any advice, suggestion or request from the facilitation partnership at any time. Clients further understand that they are responsible for their progress which includes their choices & decisions. As a result, clients understand that their level of success is directly proportional to their level of commitment. Thus, no guarantees can be made about the results of grief facilitation. Clients acknowledge that they have the freedom to choose to discontinue grief facilitation at any time. Finally, if clients present with issues outside of my expertise, being better served through professional counseling, professional referrals will be made.
Help a Grieving Family
Thank you in advance for considering becoming a partner with Tonya Cunningham Ministries. Your donation helps TCM provide grief support services at no charge to those who cannot afford one-on-one facilitation. Support services are full of activities to help people work through their loss.
The grief journey can be difficult, especially during special days such as holidays; therefore, participants are allowed to return for help if necessary. Your contribution will help heal the broken hearts of broken individuals, provide a safe place to transform, and guidance re-enter society as a new person.
Give today, and make an impact in the life of the brokenhearted.