Speaking & Consulting

Transforming Lives...

One at a Time

Tonya Cunningham is happy to share her experience, strength, and wisdom with your group. She’s available to speak on a variety of topics that cover: leadership, dealing with grief, coping with life transitions and loss, maximizing the power of the gifts you’ve been given, and more.  Details on some of her most popular topics are listed below.

“I Got My Marbles Back!” LIFE happens to everyone. Have your twin towers been knocked down to ground zero? A relationship you thought would last forever, didn’t? You lost your job in the last round of layoffs due to a merger? You do the work to be healthy but still receive a terminal diagnosis? These are just a few life events that plague the lives of people; oftentimes, causing minds to unravel into millions of pieces. This is a message that every person should hear to fully understand the awesome keeping power and grace of God. In her signature message of nearly losing her mind (marbles) due to life catastrophes, Tonya will help:

  • Empower you to tell your story to receive healing as in Rev 12:11, And they overcame him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony, and they did not love their lives to the death. NKJV
  • Navigate disappointments and encourage you to do the work of gathering the pieces of your mind
  • Ignite your passion with the fuel of pain
  • Push past shame, blame, and guilt…..and so much more

“There IS life after loss” When loss of any kind occurs in your life, you sometimes believe that life is over for you. In an effort to encourage you, most people will suggest that you keep busy, get back into the swing of things, and return to your life as normal. When in reality, it’s impossible to accomplish this task because absolutely EVERYTHING in your life has changed, including YOU. Don’t throw in the towel! Tonya’s presentation will help:

  • You change your perception and realize there IS life after loss, it’s just a different life (Romans 8:28)
  • Empower you to create the “new you” after loss
  • Renew your vision for life

“Grief and the Church- What does the bible say about grief?” Grief has a way of marching into your life and catapulting you to an unknown place. Death loss often creates a spiritual earthquake, leaving you to sift through the rubble of your life to find remnants of your faith. Whether you acknowledge it or not, no one is exempt from grief. It crosses all cultural and socioeconomic boundaries. It is one thing to loosely spew rhetoric to a parishioner when their loved one has died. It’s a total different story when the lifeless body of your loved one is lying in the casket in front of you. Now what ? How do YOU react? The church is watching how you respond and oftentimes judge your faith based upon your grief reaction or the lack thereof. Don’t lose heart. It was not only the death but also the 2 hour and 12 minute life of Tonya’s little angel, Chelsea, that sent her on a voyage through the bible to see what God says about grief. This power-packed presentation will help:

  • Define and understand grief from the biblical perspective
  • Identify common grief reactions
  • Explain the necessity for spiritual, emotional, and relational care

“I’m a leader…I can’t be depressed!” After a long week, it’s Sunday morning again and the pastor/leader has mustered up enough energy to enter the church building, the place that was designed for teaching, healing, and growth. However, it has become a place of obligation, legalism, & busyness. Through personal research and professional experience, Tonya has noted that every week, the pews and pulpits are full of depressed, stressed out people. Yes, it could happen to YOU! The Lord IS my shepherd……so why should I be stressed out? Every leader, from the pastor to the parking lot attendant, should hear this one of a kind presentation. Tonya will help you:

  • Identify and address signs & symptoms of stress and depression
  • Overcome guilt and shame to press toward healing
  • Understand how man’s entire being (spirit, body, & soul) must be managed

“Work Your Gift” God has given to everyone gifts and abilities. It is important that you first discover your gifts in order to better understand who you are made to be and what you are to do in your work. Secondly, submit that gift to God for the usefulness of the Kingdom of God. The bible encourages us to use our spiritual gifts in love to glorify God and build or edify His church. He provides opportunities daily to put our gifts to use and bless others. Will you do the work of discovering your gift? In this presentation, Tonya will:

  • Help you discover your gifts
  • Help you work your gift according to Gen 12:2 “I will make you a great nation; I will bless you And make your name great; And you shall be a blessing

“Get Your House in Order” – 1 Cor 14:40 “Let all things be done decently and in order.” The 5 P’s is a basic principle concept that is applicable to every area of life….Proper Planning Prevents Poor Performance. A few life changing events we generally plan for are childbirth, weddings, education, & career. However, no one plans for end of life. Planning is a part of living. It’s about HOW you live, encouraging individuals to make informed decisions about end of life care and services BEFORE you get to the end of your life. This presentation will help you:

  • Identify options available for end of life care
  • Understand Advance Directives and the need for them
  • Become aware of things that need to be done after a death

“The Empty Chair During the Holidays Grief and Loss Symposium” Every empty chair has a name, every name has a story, every story matters to God…. ~Pastor Scott Oldenburgh, Church on Rushcreek Mansfield West. The holiday season can be a difficult time for those who have experienced loss. When everyone around you seems happy and full of holiday cheer, you may want to just skip the holiday season all together. For many individuals, it’s often a painful reminder of the losses in their lives, be it by death, divorce/separation, unemployment, etc. The sights, sounds, and smells of the holiday season, which are generally steeped in tradition and custom, will often cause emotions of grief to resurface when there is an empty chair at the Thanksgiving dining room table or an empty spot around the Christmas Tree as family members open their gifts and enjoy the fellowship of others. In this presentation, Tonya will:

  • Provide practical suggestions for managing grief during the holidays
  • Explain the difference between grieving, mourning, & bereavement
  • Identify other life experiences that causes one to grieve & mourn

“Not Just Another Dead End Job” Why am I here? Where is my passion? Am I happy? Am I truly excited about what I do? Am I a leader or a follower? Am I accountable and dependable? These are just a few questions that employees must ask themselves when they are confronted with the “Dead End Job” syndrome. This presentation will help you make the best of where you are while moving from a state of paralysis to fluidity by utilizing the following tools:

  • A self-assessment for personal growth
  • Understand the power of vision
  • Recognize how your personality affects your work life

“Your Best Year Ever” In many places around the world, people stay up late to see the old year out and the new year in. As the clock strikes midnight, you will hear whistles blow, church bells ring, horns toot, and sirens shriek. New York City’s Times Square is sure to be swarmed with crowds of happy, noisy people in high spirits, screaming “Happy New Year!” In reality, this “new year” celebration experience can be encountered any day of the year as opposed to a particular calendar date. Change your perspective, change your life is the theme for this presentation. Tonya will help your audience understand how to experience their best year ever by:

  • Reframing the new year with a new perspective
  • Understanding the withdrawal & deposit system in your ‘life’ bank
  • Living with intention to produce measurable results

“Loss & Grieving in Pregnancy during the 1st Year of Life” The loss of a baby remains a sad reality for many families because a parent doesn’t ever expect their child to die before them. This tremendous loss takes a serious toll on the emotional well-being of families as well as a nation. Infant Mortality is referred to as the death of a baby before his or her first birthday. The availability of and access to prenatal care, preventive health care and health education, infant mortality, and low weight births remain major public health issues in our nation. The fact that African Americans, Hispanics, American Indians and other minorities continue to have increased rates of poor perinatal outcomes, poses a major public health issue for Texas and the U.S. as a whole. Through this presentation, Tonya will provide:

  • Basic education on Fetal and Infant Mortality
  • An understanding of common grief reactions due to infant loss
  • Guidance on how to communicate with bereaved parents

“How to keep it together when you feel like falling apart – Caring for the Caregiver” Case scenario: a middle aged female who has a fulltime and part time job, serves as the primary caregiver for her 70 year old husband who is ill, mother who has early stages of dementia, and 35 year old sibling who is terminally ill with a communicable disease, all of which live in her home. Her daughter who is bipolar & refuses to take medication also resides with her along with her infant child. This is the ‘real life’ story of many Americans today. The female in the scenario represents the Sandwich Generation which is a generation of people who care for their aging parents while supporting their own children. In this presentation, Tonya will help:

  • Identify caregiver stress
  • Explain the results of caregiver stress
  • Develop interventions for crisis prevention

“The Elephant in the Room….Let’s Deal With It” According to Wikipedia, “Elephant in the room” is an English metaphorical idiom for an obvious truth that is either being ignored or going unaddressed. The idiomatic expression also applies to an obvious problem or risk no one wants to discuss. It is based on the idea that an elephant in a room would be impossible to overlook; thus, people in the room who pretend the elephant is not there have chosen to avoid dealing with the looming big issue. Wherever human beings are involved, conflict is inevitable. How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. The fact that conflict is present, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a bad thing, if it’s effectively addressed. This presentation will help resolve conflict in the workplace and provide your audience with tools to:

  • Identify the cause of the conflict
  • Depersonalize the conflict
  • Understand the difference between chain dumping and positive ventilation

“The Empty Chair During the Holidays Grief and Loss Symposium” Every empty chair has a name, every name has a story, every story matters to God…. ~Pastor Scott Oldenburgh, Church on Rushcreek Mansfield West. The holiday season can be a difficult time for those who have experienced loss. When everyone around you seems happy and full of holiday cheer, you may want to just skip the holiday season all together. For many individuals, it’s often a painful reminder of the losses in their lives, be it by death, divorce/separation, unemployment, etc. The sights, sounds, and smells of the holiday season, which are generally steeped in tradition and custom, will often cause emotions of grief to resurface when there is an empty chair at the Thanksgiving dining room table or an empty spot around the Christmas Tree as family members open their gifts and enjoy the fellowship of others. In this presentation, Tonya will:

    • Provide practical suggestions for managing grief during the holidays
    • Understand the difference between grieving, mourning, & bereavement
    • Identify other life experiences that causes one to grieve & mourn

Consulting

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In addition to speaking engagements, Tonya provides consulting services to professionals in funeral homes, grief support programs, schools, churches, hospice organizations, hospitals, civic organizations, etc.

The consulting services she offers include:

  • Clarifying vision and goals
  • Staff development training
  • Customer Service
  • Team building activities
  • Strength assessments

Help a Grieving Family

Thank you in advance for considering becoming a partner with Tonya Cunningham Ministries. Your donation helps TCM provide grief support services at no charge to those who cannot afford one-on-one facilitation. Support services are full of activities to help people work through their loss.

The grief journey can be difficult, especially during special days such as holidays; therefore, participants are allowed to return for help if necessary. Your contribution will help heal the broken hearts of broken individuals, provide a safe place to transform, and guidance re-enter society as a new person.

Give today, and make an impact in the life of the brokenhearted.